How Importance of Mental and Material Readiness for
people who would Married
By Akhmad Roja Badrus Zaman[1]
Many cases in developing countries,
children under the age are working part-time to make their needs, they are not
concerned with education, and prefers to get a lot of income in order to
fulfill these needs, so that not a few of those who work part-time to fulfill
their ambition.
Even some of those who marry at a
young age, according to Dr. Hj. Naqiyah Mukhtar, M. Ag.[2],
"Marriage is a sunna ( Sunah ) of our prophet, but the law of sunna
can change to their situation and condition. Marriage becomes mandatory when a
person has reached adulthood, ready mentally, and capable in economic terms,
but it is not able to withstand of lust, so the law of marriage for him is
obligatory. In contrast with the marriage of a child, even when working in the
mental but I guess not yet ready, the marriage law for the minors are makruh
".
According to the opinion of Dr. Hj.
Naqiyah Mukhtar, M.Ag., Ust. Biqih Zulmy, S.Pdi.[3],
Adding, "It is not wise for parents who allow their children to work part
time in order to get married at a young age. Parents should give proper
education to their children, if he is able to provide these facilities ".
One purpose of marriage is a family
sakinah, mawadah and warahmah, and continue the generation. The soul of children
who are still minors are still very unstable. It is feared that the marriage
occurred not bring the benefits they bring madlorot form of divorce. And the
biological condition of minors was very frail, when they conceive and bear not
continue the descent, it brings death.
So readiness not only in terms of
material, physical, mental become a supporting factor that marriage exists to
provide happiness and tranquility.
[1] The Writer is a Student of The
Department of Qur’an and Tafseer (IAT) Faculty of Ushuludin Adab and Humanities
( FUAH ) State Islamic Institute ( IAIN ) Purwokerto
[2] She is Dean of The Ushuludin Adab
and Humanities Faculty ( FUAH ) State
Islamic Institute ( IAIN ) Purwokerto
[3]
He is The Head of The
Madrasah Diniyah Salafiyah Al Hidayah ( MDSA ), Islamic Boarding School Al
Hidayah Purwokerto
